Monday 16 April 2012

Big Girls You Are Beautiful!

I am a firm believer in the fact that a woman who is confident with her body and carries herself with pride and takes care of her appearance, is beautiful. In today’s world where beauty is defined by all the wrong people, it is easy to lose this fundamental truth.

I hate the concept that skinny is synonymous with beauty. I love curves, as an African woman it is hard to escape them anyway because most African women are blessed with curves naturally. Do not get me wrong, I am not dealing double standards and saying skinny women are not beautiful because they are. What I do not support is trying to push everybody to be skinny and saying that qualifies you as beautiful.

 It is sad to see women not eating properly, starving themselves and being depressed about their body weight because every magazine cover, every Hollywood movie, every music video has some skinny girl in amazing clothes looking like a goddess. Trying to live up to that standard is almost impossible because most times, the very girls we admire don’t even look like that in real life. What, with picture editing tools like photoshop and video effects, some of these images are so polished to the point that they become ridiculously perfect.

"Beauty is a concept that is hard to define because what can be defined as beautiful is constantly changing and is different to different people."

My point is that you should never allow anyone to define your beauty. Every woman is beautiful whether skinny, curvy, dark skinned, pale e.t.c. It really does not matter. You must believe in yourself because there a lot of gorgeous women who do not believe they are beautiful just because someone told them so.

“Don’t wait to be validated, give yourself a break, after all, we all have imperfections and those imperfections are what make us unique and different from others.”

This post is really dedicated to the big girls because they get it hardest. As long as you are healthy and comfortable with your size, do not change yourself to fit other people’s idea of perfection. Big are BEAUTIFUL!!!

Here are some of the fabulous curvy ladies whose style I love!

 Thank you for reading!


  1. Self-acceptance is a very important aspect of one's life! I like the ladies style...especially the one with the red skirt! :)

    1. I agree with you Olwaseun, self-acceptance is the first step to unlocking great potential within you, you are stronger and much more beautiful than you know!

  2. Thank you for this post!!! This is so important that people think like this, I think it's so sad that people find it normal to say that one body type is better than another, everybody is beautiful, and I agree with you that confidence is also an important factor!!
    Great pictures, I love Klerlie, she's so confident and daring!! Love it about her!

    1. You are welcome Diane, this is such an important issue which people need to understand. Klerie is also one of my favourite curvy girls, I just love the way she flaunts her curves, very stylish. Thank you for always taking the time to drop a line:)

  3. Thank you Ivo, your blog has such great photography! I will enjoy browsing through all the exciting posts! Keep reading:)

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  5. Aww I think this is much needed! I need a friend of mine to read this because she is always looking at other girls saying that she's fat short and not beautiful, I tried everything but she thinks that because I'm her friend I don't tell her the truth.
    As girls we all go through moments where we really hate our bodies it's important for those who are still in this stage to read this hoping it will help them to love themselves the way they are. I couldn't agree more with what you said it's very important to have confidence and even more to learn how to accept our own bodies, every girl need to start living and accepting the fact that she will never be like what media portrays.
    Very good article! Let's hope that one day media will stop portraying skinny as beautiful!

  6. fantastic looks!