I am a firm believer in the fact that a woman who is confident with her body and carries herself with pride and takes care of her appearance, is beautiful. In today’s world where beauty is defined by all the wrong people, it is easy to lose this fundamental truth.
I hate the concept that skinny is synonymous with beauty. I love curves, as an African woman it is hard to escape them anyway because most African women are blessed with curves naturally. Do not get me wrong, I am not dealing double standards and saying skinny women are not beautiful because they are. What I do not support is trying to push everybody to be skinny and saying that qualifies you as beautiful.
It is sad to see women not eating properly, starving themselves and being depressed about their body weight because every magazine cover, every Hollywood movie, every music video has some skinny girl in amazing clothes looking like a goddess. Trying to live up to that standard is almost impossible because most times, the very girls we admire don’t even look like that in real life. What, with picture editing tools like photoshop and video effects, some of these images are so polished to the point that they become ridiculously perfect.
"Beauty is a concept that is hard to define because what can be defined as beautiful is constantly changing and is different to different people."
My point is that you should never allow anyone to define your beauty. Every woman is beautiful whether skinny, curvy, dark skinned, pale e.t.c. It really does not matter. You must believe in yourself because there a lot of gorgeous women who do not believe they are beautiful just because someone told them so.
“Don’t wait to be validated, give yourself a break, after all, we all have imperfections and those imperfections are what make us unique and different from others.”
This post is really dedicated to the big girls because they get it hardest. As long as you are healthy and comfortable with your size, do not change yourself to fit other people’s idea of perfection. Big girls..you are BEAUTIFUL!!!
Here are some of the fabulous curvy ladies whose style I love!